HOW
OFTEN . . . . ?
A sermon preached by Rev.
Richard A. Miller, Minister of Trinity United Church, Montreal, Quebec. September 11, 2005. Matthew 18.21-35
"Lord,
how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? As many as seven times?"
- Matthew 18.21b
Our Gospel
reading this morning focuses on forgiveness.
How interesting that this is the appointed lectionary reading for
today. Nine-eleven. Has it really been four years already? And now – when this day carries us back to
those live telecasts of the Twin Towers crumbling to the ground, and when we
are trying to cope with the flooding of much of New Orleans in the wake of
Hurricane Katrina, as well as with the senseless deaths here in Montreal of two
young men who had so much to live for – what is the Gospel reading appointed to
be read on this day? Matthew chapter
18, verses 21 and following. And how
does it read? It begins with Simon
Peter speaking to Jesus and saying to him:
"Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive
him? As many as seven times?"
Yes, here we
are. Here we are on September 11,
2005. And here we are with the
aftermath of a hurricane, and with these two troubling deaths. And for many – perhaps most – of us here we
are out of sorts with people that we know well – whether they are members of
our families, or neighbours, or friends, or other people who are part of the
family of faith. And whatever our own
life-situation, here is Simon Peter asking Jesus the same question that we
ask: “Lord how often?” “Lord, how many times?” “How many times must I forgive someone
else?” “How many times, Lord?? And maybe we are also asking, “When can I
stop? When is my obligation over? When can I stop forgiving?”
I think that
was Peter’s real question: “When can I
stop forgiving? When have I done
enough?” And he offers a possible
answer: he says, “As many as seven
times?” Now his Jewish religion
required him to forgive three times, so Peter probably thought that he was
going far beyond the call of duty by suggesting seven times, for that was more
than twice what he was required. He may
even have felt that he was approaching the standard of Jesus himself. Imagine his surprise when Jesus said seventy
times seven (or some translations read seventy times seven).
When Jesus told
Peter that seven was not enough: that
he would have to forgive seventy-seven times, Jesus did not mean this exact
number. You see, seven was the days of
creation, so it was a number that signified perfection. Seventy-seven – or seven beside seven –
meant perfect perfection. It was
perfection to the nth
degree. So what Jesus was saying to
Peter was that you don’t calculate forgiveness on the basis of arithmetic. And he went on to tell a story to make the
point. He told a story about a servant
who owed his king ten thousand talents, which amounted to something like twenty
million dollars in our money. Now it
would have been impossible for anyone in that day to actually owe anyone that
much money. But at that time and place
it was the most anyone could imagine.
If ever there had been such a case, the person’s property could be sold,
and in many places he and his family could even be sold into slavery. This would not have begun to retire the
debt, but it would have given the creditor some return on what was owed to him.
Well we know
how the story goes: this servant asked
to be allowed to work off his debt - something which was absolutely impossible
for him to do. But next we are told
something else that seemed impossible, namely that the king had pity on him and
forgave him all that he owed. Imagine
that! The debt was erased, just like
that.
Now let us stop
here and review this story so far.
Peter had asked Jesus how many times he must forgive someone, and Jesus
tells him seventy-seven which was like saying he must do it endlessly. And then Jesus tells this story of how a
servant owed more than could ever be repaid, but it was all forgiven. So far it seems quite straight-forward.
But Jesus does
not stop there: he goes on to say that
when that same man left the king, he met someone who owed him a rather small
amount - about $20 in our money. But
when that man asked for time to repay him - which was quite possible, the other
servant refused and put him in prison – quite out of keeping with the grace he
himself had just received.
“How often
should I forgive?” “When can I
stop?”
The message of
Jesus to Peter – and to us – is that we are all like the man who owed an
unpayable debt and was forgiven it, for who can comprehend the greatness of
God's forgiveness - let alone calculate its worth. And just as we have been forgiven, so we too should forgive
others. And since we have been forgiven
beyond measure, so we should forgive without measure – without trying to keep
count.
Now when we
read on to the end of the story, what happened to the servant who had been
forgiven but did not forgive? What
happened was that the king took back his forgiveness and had him locked up,
saying, “Should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant as I had mercy on
you?" In other words, God's
forgiveness of us is related to our willingness to forgive a sister or
brother. When we refuse to forgive, we
jeopardize our own forgiveness from God.
Of course, what
we all know is that forgiveness is much easier in theory than it is in
practice. It is easier to talk the talk
than to walk the walk. Something I read
puts it this way:
Forgiveness is not easy, especially when it
comes to the deep wounds of life. It
might be done quickly when someone steps on our toes or bumps into us in the
hallway; but when we face significant hurt, all good reason stops. We freeze in the trenches of resentment,
bitterness and revenge. (John
and Robin McCullough-Bade in Daily
Discipleship, Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, Copyright © 2005)
Does that sound familiar? Do any of us ever feel that way?
On this day –
this September 11 – many people may well wonder how they can forgive. And in a somewhat similar way, the people in
and from Louisiana may wonder if and how they can forgive those who sat
fiddling for days while they struggled to survive. Fact is, probably most of us have our own experiences where we
wonder how we can forgive someone. We
may even feel that we don’t want to. Sometimes
we may even feel that someone else deserves our resentment and bitterness and revenge.
But these
writers continue, and say:
The only thing is – we lose. Our energy is zapped. Hatred and resentment eat away at joy and
life-giving activities. Thus, we become
victimized again. There is no room or
energy to follow Jesus Christ in mission and ministry.
Like Peter, we
too ask, “Lord, how often shall someone sin against me and I forgive her
or him?” And the Lord tells us that we
are to do it without measure, in the same way that God's love and forgiveness
is given to us without measure. This is
the measure of love, and we may feel that it is too demanding for us. But it is also the good news of the
gospel. For it is because of the love
which God has given and continues to give to us that we are called to be a
community of faith, and that we are empowered to live as people of faith.
Dear friends, I
think the underlying question about forgiveness is this: do we know God’s love? Have we
experienced God’s love and forgiveness – in our own life? If so, we know what we have to do – to
forgive as we are forgiven. But if we
have not experienced God’s love and forgiveness, let me declare that it is
ready and available to us – as close as our breath. In that case, God invites us to open our lives so that we may
experience his love and receive his forgiveness, and then to be empowered to go
forward – sharing that love with anyone and everyone who themselves stand in
need of it. Amen and amen.